I am writing this letter to you. You know who you are. You are the beautiful soul who is in pain right now. You are the wonderful being who is on this planet to make a difference. But in this moment, everything is clouded with the overwhelming and devastating feeling of loss.
Because you have found the one. The one who loves you unconditionally. The one who makes you feel alive. The one who fits perfectly. The one who makes you feel as though you have finally come home.
The one who has left you.
I know you are searching for answers. On the internet, in books, in movies. I know that you are looking for the secret, for the magic spell that will make it all right again. That will bring your Flame back to you, where they belong. And I know you have yet to find it. And that is because there is no secret. There is no magic spell. There is only the truth.
If you wish for a future with your Flame, you must let them go. You must cut the cords. You must say good-bye. And you must move on.
Focus all of your energy on yourself. On your mission, on your health, on your well-being. Focus on joy and laughter, and friendship and the beauty that surrounds you. It is only then, that you might find yourselves back on a path toward each other.
I am guessing that at this moment in time, you are shaking your head and thinking – “This woman has no clue! How could I possibly do any of that, when I feel like this? When I am in this pit of despair? She has obviously never been where I am.”
But I have, dear Flames. I have been there not just once, but several times. And the first time, well, I didn’t think I would survive it. It was so very dark in that pit, no light found its way to me. None at all. And I wished that someone could have told me what I am telling you now.
You will get through it. I know you will. You are much, much stronger than you realise. And though being with your Flame in this lifetime is indeed part of your journey, it is not the entire journey. There are many other reasons why you are here right now. And those reasons are very much worth living for. If you find that you move on, and you do not reunite with your Flame, do not fall into fear or despair, instead, remember what Dr Seuss said – “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” Last year, I bought a little sign that bore that quote. The reason I loved it, and it made me more joyful, is because I realised, finally, that even though I was not with my Flame at that time, I had been with him. I had experienced his love, I had felt the depth of our connection, I had been completely at home in his arms, and even if I never experienced those things again, I knew I was lucky. Because there are so many souls who have never and might never experience that. I was so grateful to have had those moments with my Flame, and though the darkness without him was overwhelming, I wouldn’t have traded in my moments with him for a lifetime without having ever met him.
And I know you wouldn’t either.
I hope this letter shines a little light in your direction, and that it begins the healing of your heart. It will be whole again one day, I promise. I am sending you so much love and the brightest light to you, my dear Flames, and I am asking the Angels to envelop you in their wings while you heal and nurture yourself. Please, if you are in need of a friend, reach out, send me a message. I do not think I have all the answers, but I can provide an ear and a shoulder.
Love and blessings to you all,