Permission to be Myself

I was inspired to write today’s blog post after having a great Skype session with Mike Gardner, aka The Time Doctor. We met on Facebook through the 30 Day Blogging Challenge group, and he suggested we have a session to see if he could assist me with my time management problems.

Well how many ‘aha’ moments can you fit into an hour and twenty-minute conversation? Quite a few apparently. The first thing to come up, was that based on the way I speak, the terms I use to describe things and my chosen vocation, Mike identified that I am very right-brained, and very creative. Which means that I simply don’t think the same way that left-brained, logical, structured people do.


It’s who I am, it’s how I think, it’s how I work. It’s not defective, it’s not wrong, it’s not awful. So why do I keep beating myself up over it? My family members are all very creative people. My dad is a photographer, a musician, an artist and a craftsman. My mother is a quilter, patchworker and craftswoman. My sister is an artist, musician and graphic designer and my brother is a musician and handyman. It would be downright odd if I were left-brained, to be honest, coming from the background that I do. At home, we didn’t really do routine or structure, aside from school and work. We were encouraged to be creative, to do our own thing, to be original.

We weren’t encouraged to be practical, to save money, to be disciplined and stick at things we hated. (In fact my dad did work in a very corporate background, and he did stick to it, but seeing how miserable he was doing it, put me off that kind of life completely).

I realised after my session with Mike that I had created this link in my mind, that the reason I was in a bad position financially, was due to my haphazard (creative) ways, and so if I was to solve the financial issues, I would need to become more organised, more structured, and more left-brained in order to solve those problems. Because being creative = being poor. And this isn’t unusual thinking. After all, the ‘starving artist’ concept is so strong in our society, that when artists, musicians or writers do make a lot of money, it’s a big deal, because it’s seen as being so out of the ordinary.

I could go on about this all day, but the point is, I have now unlinked those concepts in my mind. Because I don’t choose to live in a world where to be wealthy you have to be left-brained. I choose to live in a world where if you are living a life full of passion, love and service, you get to be wealthy. If working in a highly logical, structured way is your passion, then you should be wealthy. If working in a creative, authentic and unstructured way is your passion, then you should be wealthy.

The reason that I have tried so many times to implement structure in the hopes it will help me sort my finances, and yet have always failed with it, is because I was trying to be someone I was not. I need to play to my strengths – which is to be creative – and use that ability to sort it out. And in allowing myself to come up with creative ways to solve my financial problems, I have already had several awesome ideas, that not only will help me, but will also help others who have similar issues.

Wow. The above is just talking about a single ‘aha’ moment I had in my session with Mike. If I wrote about them all, it would be a ridiculously long post. Because suddenly, I have been given permission to be myself. And I cannot believe it has taken me this long, or that I needed someone else to give it to me, but at least from this moment on, I will no longer strive to be someone I am not. I will strive to be me.

I went into my session with Mike expecting him to give me some strategies on how to be more efficient with my time, and yet I came away with something far more valuable and awesome. I would recommend checking out Mike’s blog, where there is a wealth of information. Or get in touch with him to arrange a session. In the meantime, just in case you need it – I hereby give you permission to be 100% yourself. Because you are awesome 🙂


PS. I just Googled ‘Be Yourself Quotes’ and looked at the images to find an image for this post. I loved the one above because I love Richard Bach’s work, but there were so many great quotes, check them out for yourself 🙂

6 comments on “Permission to be Myself

    • It was truly a wake up call! Though people I love have been telling me to be myself and to go with the flow (which is what I do best) I was stubbornly holding onto the idea that I NEEDED a plan, a routine, a structure, in order to succeed. I assumed that you would confirm my thoughts, and agree with me, that I needed to manage my time like a left-brained person would. For you to challenge that and agree that actually, I need to be true to myself and to my creativity, was the wake up call I desperately needed 🙂 So a huge thank you 🙂


  1. Yay, well done, Michelle 🙂 So pleased you had so many revelations and realisations.

    I am a mix of highly logical (maths/computing/science) and creative/intuitive (writer/photography/energy work) and love that I can embrace all ‘parts’ of me as I run my businesses.

    You deserve no less than to be fulfilled, happy, and wealthy, based on your unique personality and blend of talents 🙂

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    • Thank you for your beautiful comment, Joanna.

      It’s brilliant that you have a mixture of the two sides, and to be honest, I do have some of the left-brained thinking, but the left side has been developed mostly due to necessity, as I didn’t have anyone else to do things for me! (Like tax returns and technical things like that!)

      But I am finding that by fully embracing my creativity, rather than shying away from it, I am finding very creative ways to solve certain problems.

      I hope you have a fabulously creative and logical 2015! xx

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      • Ha, I understand that! The flip side is that some people don’t think I can be creative or intuitive because I have a maths background, so can look very surprised when I tell them what I do now! Hehehe.

        Your account was inspirational; thanks for sharing it. All the best for this year!

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