Can you really have it all?

There are a lot of articles and videos about the concept of ‘having it all’. The idea is aimed at women, and it’s said that women can now have the career, the relationship, the family, the home etc, etc. They don’t have to choose between one of the other – they can have all of it, all at once. Of course, ‘all’ will be different to each woman, some don’t want children, some don’t want a relationship, and I think the main idea is that women can now choose, instead of having to get married and have children as a matter of course.

But recently I have recognised a pattern in myself (which I am currently working on) that when lots of things are going well in my life, and I reach for the final puzzle piece in order to ‘have it all’ something goes wrong.

One of the other perfectly good pieces suddenly falls apart, and diverts my attention from the final piece, and often distracts me enough to stop reaching for it. And it made me wonder  – are we programmed to choose either/or? Do we actually believe it’s possible to have a good balance between home/love/money/career/family?

Because it’s all very well to say we can have it all, but if we don’t believe it, then it will never happen. So do you believe you can have it all? And do you know what your ‘all’ looks like?

Something to ponder on this Monday morning!

I do love this movie. But it illustrates exactly my point – when she tries to have a high-powered career and also care for a child as a single parent, it seems impossible to ‘have it all’.

On the Smugness of Minimalists

I’m in a slightly ranty mood, so take from this post what you will!

I have stuff. And I like all of it. I’m not a hoarder in the sense that I keep absolute rubbish, but I do get sentimental about things. I come from a family of hoarders, so in my defence, I never had a chance.

I get that energetically, it’s better to have less ‘stuff’. To have a clear space is to have a clear mind, and I have to say, every time I watch a decluttering program (I do love Marie Kondo!) I have the urge to clean, tidy and purge my stuff. And some things have improved – my drawers contain all Konmari style folded clothes now, and have done for months. But some things don’t change.

And one of those things is, I like my stuff.

I’m not just a writer. Or even just a reader. I have a LOT of interests and hobbies. I knit, crochet, scrapbook, sew and create all sorts of crafty things. I love stationery (washitape is my current addiction) so I have a lot of papers, pens, stickers, notebooks etc. I run my own business, so I have stock, packaging, and equipment like lighting etc for filming videos.

And you might be reading this, thinking – so what? Why is this an issue? Well, the issue is, I don’t own my own home, and in the last 12 years, the longest I have stayed anywhere is my current home for the last 13 months. So I have moved, a LOT, and every time, I get so many comments from people on just how much stuff I have. Yet I bet any of them would struggle to move their belongings every few months!

I honestly do wish I could be minimalist, and believe me, I have done energetic work on having too much stuff. But the things is, I love the things I own. In the words of Marie Kondo – they bring me joy.

What doesn’t bring me joy is having to pack them up and move them all the time! So of course, the easy solution is to have a permanent home. But unless a magical unicorn that poops gold bars drops out of the sky right now, that’s not really an option.

There’s not really a point to this post, I was just feeling ranty because many minimalist people seem so smug about not having so much stuff, and to be honest – if I were minimalist, I’d probably be smug too. It does seem like an easier way of life!

But until I find the magical minimalist pill, or a gold bar pooping unicorn, I guess I better just get used to packing a lot of boxes…

(This image may seem completely random, but it shows one of the many craft projects I have done in my life and had a fun quote on it!)

Surrender to Wellness…

… rather than fight the illness.

Last night and this morning I have been watching the Heal documentary on Netflix, and then this morning I had a reflexology treatment, during which we were chatting about healing and well-being, and the thought occurred to me that we needed to surrender to wellness, rather than fight the illness.

Because the body only has the ability to heal when it is in a state of rest and relaxation. It cannot heal itself in the fight and flight mode. And let’s be honest, we are in a fight or flight stress mode most of the time. We are always busy, always on the go, always on our phones, always working, always thinking, always worrying… in a constant doing mode.

Then suddenly we get diagnosed with a disease, and what do we do?

We fight it.

We fight this foreign invader in our body. Whether it’s a virus or a malignant growth or whatever. And by fighting it, we actually feed it. We make it stronger. By making it a part of our identity, and our story, we give it life. We make it a whole entity in itself. And we ensure that we will never be free of it. Because that would mean losing part of ourselves.

But what if we surrendered? What if we accepted its presence, and acknowledged that our body is trying to tell us something, and then in a calm, and relaxed manner, began to look at what lies beneath it, what might be causing it. Whether it’s your environment, your diet, the people who are surrounding you, or your thoughts and beliefs and unhealed trauma.

And then we resolve those issues. We change old outdated programming. We lessen the time spent with people who make us feel bad. We change our habits, our diet, and spend more time away from the screen and in nature instead.

There are so many ways to do this. Through complimentary therapies, through meditation and yoga, though EFT, through good conversations with friends. The point is, when you take your well-being and health into your own hands, and take full responsibility for it, you can heal anything.

But most importantly, when you fully and completely relax and rest on a regular basis, you can heal anything.

Your body is amazing, you are amazing, and absolutely anything is possible.

I believe you deserve to be well, do you?

 

Do we only have one Twin Flame?

This is an assumption that many make when they have met their Flame. That there is only one, because they cannot imagine feeling this way about anyone else. And while I completely understand this, I believe that we do have more than one Twin Flame, in fact, we may have several.

There is a brilliant channelled piece that someone sent me a long while back, which explains the differences between Twin Souls and Twin Flames, and was my first introduction to the Twin Rays, which I think is what people are thinking of when they believe there to only be one Flame for them. I recommend reading this piece, and also watching my video below on having more than one Twin Flame, and see if it resonates with you.

There is so much information and advice on Twin Flames now online, and so much of it is conflicting, and does not resonate, so my advice to you is – only take on-board that which really rings true, and that which lifts and inspires you. If it depresses you and makes you feel bad in any way, just release it. Perhaps later on it will resonate, and perhaps not. Your Twin Flame experience is uniquely yours, and no one can understand it but you and your Flame, so please trust your own intuition and your own inner guidance.

If you would like some ideas on how to create a balanced Twin Flame relationship, please do check out the Twin Flame class in my Academy here.

Comparison – The Thief

Roosevelt said that comparison is the thief of joy, and I have to say, I quite agree.

It’s a completely different world for authors right now, to just a mere ten years ago, and now, it feels like we should be producing at least ten books a year, to keep up with reader demand. Gone are the days where you could take several years to write a book and hope to do well.

Since I began publishing properly in 2011, I have published at least 2 books a year, and I now have 16 books available. Quite an awesome accomplishment, but instead of revelling in the joy of what I have created, I find myself looking at authors who have published 50 or 60 books in that same amount of time, and wondering why I have been so lazy in comparison.

Then I saw the posts about the latest plagiarism scandal. It seems that a bestselling author in Brazil has been taking chunks of other authors’ work, and giving it to ghostwriters on Fiverr and then publishing what they’ve cobbled together and making a mint from it. She has a large list of books available, and it would seem that none of her material belonged to her.

Which made me wonder, how many of the authors with massive output are actually writing it all themselves? Or even using original material?

And somehow, this made me stop comparing myself to them. Because I know that I write every word of my books. And I know that I only write books that turn up and annoy me until I write them. And that it’s actually quite realistic to write and publish two or three books a year, when you take into account the editing and proofreading, publishing and marketing.

So although I am quite upset for these authors who have had their work ripped to bits and made into bad books that have made thieves a lot of money, I am also grateful to now have been released from this comparison game, and I plan to revel in the joy of each creation, knowing that I am producing work that I am proud of, and that readers will love, and that is wholly my own.

Do you compare yourself or your creativity or your life to others? Do you think that you should be further along, or richer, or better, because you look at what other people are doing?

Let me know in the comments.

You are not a Demon

Honestly. You’re not.

If you are interested in Earth Angels, then chances are you might have encountered Doreen Virtue’s work, and you might have followed her recent conversion to Christianity. If you haven’t and you have no idea what I’m talking about, then feel free to ignore this post!

I had absolutely no issue with Doreen changing her beliefs. I am thankful for her books on Earth Angels, as they helped me to understand who I am and why I am here, and inspired my books and my work. When she converted I didn’t have an opinion on it – she is completely entitled to believe whatever she wishes to.

However, in January, she released an article on New Age practices that should be avoided, and it cause a huge stir in the spiritual community, because despite professing to be coming from love, it basically said that if you practised anything ‘new age’ you were possessed by demons or doing the devil’s work.

And I have a slight issue with that.

Just because Doreen no longer believes in Earth Angels, and is now a devout Christian, does not mean that it is right or loving to vilify the many people who do believe in faeries and angels, who practice yoga, Feng Shui, meditation, EFT, Wicca or any of the many things that made her list.

I do not believe that we are here on the planet to suffer or to carry around our burdens, which is what her article seems to suggest. We Earth Angels came here to help others, and that is what we do through our missions, whether they involve healing, oracle card reading or chakra balancing.

So while I respect Doreen has the right to her beliefs and views, I don’t respect her needlessly demonising others’ beliefs in order to validate her own.

I created a short video to discuss this, and after this post and video, I don’t intend to discuss it again. It is possible that the article was created purely to stir up negativity as a publicity stunt, in which case, I’d rather not give it any more energy than it has already received. But I felt the need to address it, because it does affect me, the readers of my books and the viewers of EarthAngelTV.

I would like to say – you are a divine spark of light, you are doing the very best you can, you are helping others with your love and wisdom, and do not let anyone – even someone whose work has helped you, who you have admired or respected – tell you otherwise.

So much love to you.xx

Money Tips for Earth Angels

I have a lot of Earth Angel friends, many of whom have issues with money. The topic of money is one often forefront in my own mind, as I too, have struggled with it.

Making it, managing it, saving it, charging the right amount, investing it.

I have no issues with spending it, of course!

The reason I believe that Earth Angels have these issues is because they come from realms, dimensions and planets where there is no such thing as money. Either their needs were taken care of effortlessly, no exchange needed, or perhaps there was a bartering system in place. But in most cases, every soul would be taken care of, regardless of their abilities or age/gender/qualifications if those things exist where they originate from.

And so money is a bit of a foreign concept. The idea of having to do something to earn bits of paper and coins, and then using those bits of paper and coins to get food and shelter and clothing is a weird idea to most Earth Angels. Many say that the younger generations act as though they are ‘entitled’ and they don’t want to work hard to earn their keep. My thoughts are that the younger generations are simply Earth Angels who are used to having their basic needs met without needing to work for hours a week in a job that is not in line with their purpose on the planet.

Of course, many might also call me delusional and crazy. (and indeed, they already have) But I think this theory does explain a lot. In general, Earth Angels are not good with finances, and so we must learn how to be. Because we currently live in a world where money is the currency, and so if we wish to thrive and fulfil our purpose, we must learn how to make it, manage it, save it, invest it and use it to our benefit and the benefit of others.

Though it may feel like a struggle to learn how to do this, I believe that once you have cleared old beliefs and blocks (I recommend using EFT to do so) money, or the lack of it, will no longer hold you back.

In January 2019 I released four videos on EarthAngelTV on money tips for Earth Angels, have a watch and see if the information is helpful to you in any way. Because I would love for you live in wealth and abundance, your needs met effortlessly and every day a joy to live. If you enjoy the EarthAngelTV episodes, please do consider subscribing to my channel, there is a new episode every Saturday!

Linen & Aria’s Faerie Book Club

A while ago, I had the idea of starting a book club. And like many of my ideas, I just didn’t get the time to make it a reality. But now I am!

Starting in March 2019, the Linen & Aria Faerie Book Club on Facebook will explore the Earth Angel Series in greater depth, reading and discussing one book a month. There will be live sessions and discussions and readers can ask me anything they want about the series.

I’m really excited about the book club because it will give me a chance to re-read the books, revisit the characters and interact more with my amazing readers who helped to shape the series.

If you have read and loved the series, or not even started reading them yet, please do join us! I would love to see you there.

 

Do you have Angelic Compulsive Disorder?

On EarthAngelTV, I interviewed Roberta Smart, a beautiful Earth Angel, Coach and Comedienne. During this interview, (which was so much fun to do!) she hit upon something that most Earth Angels suffer from. And the name she gave it was – Angelic Compulsive Disorder. ACD. It is the compulsion that Earth Angels have to help others, to make other people’s lives better, and to be of service, even when it is detrimental to their own health and wellbeing.

Roberta came back on EarthAngelTV later to talk a bit more about ACD, and she has now put together a course for Earth Angels who feel they have ACD and wish to learn how to control it and take better care of themselves. You can find out more about the course here, and please do join Roberta’s Facebook group to connect with others in a similar situation.

Though helping others is an inbuilt programme for most Earth Angels, it really isn’t necessary for them to run themselves into the ground for the sake of everyone else. So please, if you feel like you are exhausting yourself to be of service to others, take a step back, say no to requests for help and put your own needs first. At least until you have regained your health and energy. Because you are important, and so is your wellbeing.

EarthAngelTV – 26 episodes later

In August 2018, I decided to create my own TV show for YouTube. Having been on TV a couple of times, and enjoying making oracle reading videos and doing FB lives, I decided that the next thing I wanted to do was to create a show with an episode posted every week.

To clear any obstacles that might stop me from doing it, I went through the Unicorn Workshop process that I created, and within a month, I had got the equipment I needed, created the titles, chosen a name, found editing software, and then recorded 16 episodes in one weekend!

EarthAngelTV launched on the 1st September 2018, and I posted a video every day for 7 days, and then since then, I have posted one episode per week on a Saturday.

Having previously found it difficult to stay consistent with content, this has been a brilliant challenge for me, and I must admit, I am quite shocked at how easy it has been to do. And I think that’s got a lot to do with the fact that I enjoy doing it.

Too often, we are bombarded with messages that tell us – If you want to be successful, you must do X Y and Z – but what if we don’t enjoy those things? What if we find them tediously dull and they suck the life out of us? As a creative person, one of the things I struggle to do is to keep pushing the same thing over and over. So instead of reposting the same videos all the time, or instead of marketing the same books over and over, I create new ones. I write and publish at least 2 or 3 books a year, and I am determined to keep posting a new episode of EATV every week, and I even have plans for new shows and I am creating new online workshops too.

You could say that I am just being distracted by the next new shiny thing, which in all honesty could be true. But I think that when you are a creative soul – the creation process is just far more important than the rest. I also really enjoy the creative process of the editing and publishing, both books and videos, but once it’s finished and out there in the world for others to see or read, I feel like my job is done! And I move onto the next thing.

Which, if you are an Indie Author, you know that this is not a good thing. Because if you don’t market your books, then no one knows they exist, and then you don’t sell any copies.

Happily, I decided long ago that regardless of how many copies I sold, I would just keep writing and publishing, because when I don’t write, I actually start to lose the plot. (pun intended, I never plot my books)

So I want to ask you this. What is it you want to create? What drives you? What inspires you? What is stopping you?

If you need help in working all of that out, please check out my Unicorn Workshop, which is now available to buy and follow at your own pace.

You deserve to do what you love. And everyone else deserves to witness your creations.