The Art Of Waiting

I used to pride myself on being a very patient person. But something has shifted in the last few years, and now I can’t bear the gap of waiting for someone to act, for something to grow, for something to happen. I know most people would say that it’s because everyone wants instant gratification these days and has no patience, but I think it could be more that because so many things are instant now – online messages, online banking, 3D printing etcetera, we have actually become conditioned to expect things to happen instantly.

It wasn’t that long ago, that if we wanted to send someone a message, we had to write it on paper, put it in an envelope, put a stamp on it and send it, then wait patiently for it to arrive, and then for them to find the time to write a reply and send it back. Even when email was in its infancy, we didn’t expect people to reply immediately, after all, most people didn’t check their email every day.

But now, if it takes more than a few hours for someone to reply, we think they’re ignoring us. If someone reads our FB message, but doesn’t reply immediately after reading, then we KNOW they’re ignoring us.

The funny thing is, we expect everything to happen instantly, but when it comes to manifesting the life we want, the car we want, the body we want, or the relationship we want, we expect it to take time. In fact, we often don’t even believe it’s even possible.

Yet we do believe that our lives can change in an instant for the worse. A loved one could die in an accident, or be diagnosed with an illness. A weather disaster or fire could take away our homes, our possessions. We could get fired, or lose our money in an investment.

I don’t think I’m alone in my impatience, but I do think that it has impacted my life in a negative way. I get bored very easily, having lost my patience for the process. I like to do things in the moment I have the idea or motivation to do them, rather than wait for a more appropriate time. I hate trial and error, I want to spend my time doing things and making things that I know will work.

But it means that I find it hard to relax, to meditate, to do one thing at a time instead of six, and to be honest, it makes me far less productive. It also means I have a bad memory. Because I am not fully present in my tasks. I will absentmindedly read an email, get sidetracked, then forget the email exists, and never reply. Whereas if I opened my emails at a time where I am focused on reading and replying to emails only, then there wouldn’t be any going unanswered.

Is it possible to reprogram patience and focus into our lives? I’d like to think so. Otherwise, we might just find that our lives have slipped by while we were impatiently waiting for the next thing to happen.

The bluebell never waits, it just enjoys the moment…

Please Stop Searching…

… because you already have the answers. You already have everything you need. All you need to do is find a quiet space in which to hear that inner voice, your inner wisdom, and the voice and wisdom of your angels.

We live in a world of constant change, constant improvement. Which is not a bad thing, but when we want every change and improvement to be instant (because indeed, we live in an instant gratification society) we can become inpatient and find ourselves continually searching for the magic switch.

guardian angel

Let me explain. Just recently, I have become aware of this idea of the never-ending search for the ‘thing’ that will sort everything out, provide the answers etc etc. I know people who are reading every self-help book recommended, going on every course, seminar, talk or workshop, searching constantly for the one thing that will make their life better. But chances are, they’ve probably already read, or been taught, a hundred different methods or ideas that would vastly improve their lives, but they’ve missed them – because none of those things change everything instantly, they all take implementing, using daily, and adopting as habits.

I know this, because I have done the same thing. I have read book after book, searching for the answer. The solution. The magic potion. But nothing worked. Mainly because I was too lazy to actually put any of the methods into practice. I would do affirmations for a few days, then forget. I would keep a finance diary for a week, then forget. I would meditate for 20 mins, then never do it again. As you may have gathered by now, I have a bad memory and short attention span. And so, many methods or solutions are just not practical for me. But sometimes, it is simply that I am trying to make things way more complicated than they need to be.

The other day, I was having a minor freak out over a problem I couldn’t see a solution to, and my partner said to me – “You haven’t asked your angels, have you? You haven’t asked them for help, you haven’t listened to them, connected with them.”

And he was right. I was stuck in my own head, panicking rather than reaching for the simple solution – Ask for help. Within fifteen minutes of asking the angels for the tools I needed to sort out the mess, I received an email which basically sorted it all out. And after I jumped around like a nutter for a while, thanked the angels and my partner profusely, I relaxed. The problem was solved. And in the simplest, easiest way possible.

I didn’t need to read a book, or watch a video, or take a course in order to solve the problem, to find the answer. I just needed to ask for help, be open to receiving it, then show my gratitude for it arriving.

Practising gratitude is no doubt the best way to solve most problems. Because by thanking the angels or the universe for something, you are certain that it will arrive, and you are remaining in a positive state. When you are in this positive, receptive state, things are more likely to flow to you easily.

Just to be clear, I am not knocking the self-help books, videos or courses – I think they are excellent for reminding us of things we already know, for making us aware of things we didn’t know, or had long forgotten, and they are a good way to connect with others. But they are not the magic solution. And the methods will not work unless you implement them. Not every solution comes as quickly and instantly as mine did, some things take a little longer to grow and evolve, and this is where having faith in the outcome, and having patience with the process is vital.

So instead of jumping from one thing to another, and being on a never-ending search mission, my advice would be this – choose a method, then try it out. For at least a month, longer if possible. Give it a proper chance before moving onto a different method. Or, if you’re like me, and you find it hard to form habits, then go for simplicity. Ask you angels for help. And then stay open to signs, because I promise you, they are there, just waiting for you to ask for their assistance.