Dear Twin Flames,

I am writing this letter to you. You know who you are. You are the beautiful soul who is in pain right now. You are the wonderful being who is on this planet to make a difference. But in this moment, everything is clouded with the overwhelming and devastating feeling of loss.

Because you have found the one. The one who loves you unconditionally. The one who makes you feel alive. The one who fits perfectly. The one who makes you feel as though you have finally come home.

The one who has left you.

I know you are searching for answers. On the internet, in books, in movies. I know that you are looking for the secret, for the magic spell that will make it all right again. That will bring your Flame back to you, where they belong. And I know you have yet to find it. And that is because there is no secret. There is no magic spell. There is only the truth.

If you wish for a future with your Flame, you must let them go. You must cut the cords. You must say good-bye. And you must move on.

Focus all of your energy on yourself. On your mission, on your health, on your well-being. Focus on joy and laughter, and friendship and the beauty that surrounds you. It is only then, that you might find yourselves back on a path toward each other.

I am guessing that at this moment in time, you are shaking your head and thinking – “This woman has no clue! How could I possibly do any of that, when I feel like this? When I am in this pit of despair? She has obviously never been where I am.”

But I have, dear Flames. I have been there not just once, but several times. And the first time, well, I didn’t think I would survive it. It was so very dark in that pit, no light found its way to me. None at all. And I wished that someone could have told me what I am telling you now.

You will get through it. I know you will. You are much, much stronger than you realise. And though being with your Flame in this lifetime is indeed part of your journey, it is not the entire journey. There are many other reasons why you are here right now. And those reasons are very much worth living for. If you find that you move on, and you do not reunite with your Flame, do not fall into fear or despair, instead, remember what Dr Seuss said – “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”  Last year, I bought a little sign that bore that quote. The reason I loved it, and it made me more joyful, is because I realised, finally, that even though I was not with my Flame at that time, I had been with him. I had experienced his love, I had felt the depth of our connection, I had been completely at home in his arms, and even if I never experienced those things again, I knew I was lucky. Because there are so many souls who have never and might never experience that. I was so grateful to have had those moments with my Flame, and though the darkness without him was overwhelming, I wouldn’t have traded in my moments with him for a lifetime without having ever met him.

And I know you wouldn’t either.

I hope this letter shines a little light in your direction, and that it begins the healing of your heart. It will be whole again one day, I promise. I am sending you so much love and the brightest light to you, my dear Flames, and I am asking the Angels to envelop you in their wings while you heal and nurture yourself. Please, if you are in need of a friend, reach out, send me a message. I do not think I have all the answers, but I can provide an ear and a shoulder.

Love and blessings to you all,



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Please Stop Searching…

… because you already have the answers. You already have everything you need. All you need to do is find a quiet space in which to hear that inner voice, your inner wisdom, and the voice and wisdom of your angels.

We live in a world of constant change, constant improvement. Which is not a bad thing, but when we want every change and improvement to be instant (because indeed, we live in an instant gratification society) we can become inpatient and find ourselves continually searching for the magic switch.

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Let me explain. Just recently, I have become aware of this idea of the never-ending search for the ‘thing’ that will sort everything out, provide the answers etc etc. I know people who are reading every self-help book recommended, going on every course, seminar, talk or workshop, searching constantly for the one thing that will make their life better. But chances are, they’ve probably already read, or been taught, a hundred different methods or ideas that would vastly improve their lives, but they’ve missed them – because none of those things change everything instantly, they all take implementing, using daily, and adopting as habits.

I know this, because I have done the same thing. I have read book after book, searching for the answer. The solution. The magic potion. But nothing worked. Mainly because I was too lazy to actually put any of the methods into practice. I would do affirmations for a few days, then forget. I would keep a finance diary for a week, then forget. I would meditate for 20 mins, then never do it again. As you may have gathered by now, I have a bad memory and short attention span. And so, many methods or solutions are just not practical for me. But sometimes, it is simply that I am trying to make things way more complicated than they need to be.

The other day, I was having a minor freak out over a problem I couldn’t see a solution to, and my partner said to me – “You haven’t asked your angels, have you? You haven’t asked them for help, you haven’t listened to them, connected with them.”

And he was right. I was stuck in my own head, panicking rather than reaching for the simple solution – Ask for help. Within fifteen minutes of asking the angels for the tools I needed to sort out the mess, I received an email which basically sorted it all out. And after I jumped around like a nutter for a while, thanked the angels and my partner profusely, I relaxed. The problem was solved. And in the simplest, easiest way possible.

I didn’t need to read a book, or watch a video, or take a course in order to solve the problem, to find the answer. I just needed to ask for help, be open to receiving it, then show my gratitude for it arriving.

Practising gratitude is no doubt the best way to solve most problems. Because by thanking the angels or the universe for something, you are certain that it will arrive, and you are remaining in a positive state. When you are in this positive, receptive state, things are more likely to flow to you easily.

Just to be clear, I am not knocking the self-help books, videos or courses – I think they are excellent for reminding us of things we already know, for making us aware of things we didn’t know, or had long forgotten, and they are a good way to connect with others. But they are not the magic solution. And the methods will not work unless you implement them. Not every solution comes as quickly and instantly as mine did, some things take a little longer to grow and evolve, and this is where having faith in the outcome, and having patience with the process is vital.

So instead of jumping from one thing to another, and being on a never-ending search mission, my advice would be this – choose a method, then try it out. For at least a month, longer if possible. Give it a proper chance before moving onto a different method. Or, if you’re like me, and you find it hard to form habits, then go for simplicity. Ask you angels for help. And then stay open to signs, because I promise you, they are there, just waiting for you to ask for their assistance.