I’m Here

I recently made this quote picture for I’m Here, because I love this picture, in fact, I very nearly used it for the cover of the book!

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I posted the quote photo on Facebook, and my amazing Patreon supporter and Academy trainee, Kariel Tejai, said this about it:

“This was the first book I read by Michelle Gordon, whose wisdom helps me Remember the light that comes with the dawn. I am proud to be a patron of hers. Haunting, yet breathtaking in its weaving of hope and tragedy, and an ending that hurtled me towards an abyss – yet pulled me away in time to show me yes, there is hope on the brink of utter self-annihilation.”

Despite being the hardest book I have written yet, on an emotional level, I’m Here is my favourite of the Visionary Collection, because it illustrates the unconditional love possible between two people, even when the circumstances are not favourable. While searching for a quote, I re-read the end of the book, and it still strikes so many chords deep within me, and I know that it has done the same with many others.

Several readers actually broke up their current relationships after reading I’m Here, because they realised that they were not experiencing the kind of relationship they really wanted, and that they deserved the kind of love that the characters in the book were experiencing.

I’m Here helps to remind me that the ones we have loved who are no longer here, are just in a different dimension, and that they never leave us. All we need to do is speak their name, and they are listening. It also reminds me that our Guardian Angels are also always with us, and are waiting to help us. All we need to do is ask.

If you have read I’m Here, please consider leaving a review on Amazon, and comment below with your thoughts on the story or the characters. I would love to hear from you!

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Let’s End Narcissism

By discontinuing the use of this label.

This may turn into a bit of a rant, and I don’t often do that on my blog, but today, well, I’ve had enough of this so-called ‘Narcissism’ epidemic. Excuse my language, but it’s pure horse manure.

It feels like every day, something pops up on my Facebook feed about Narcissism. About how narcissists can ruin your life by being toxic in relationships, by thinking they’re so important, by taking too many selfies, blah blah blah.

Narcissism is simply a label. A not very nice label, slapped on people who have treated us badly, who seem to think they’re the best thing since sliced bread, etc. And handily enough, a narcissist won’t even know they’re a narcissist, so we’re the only ones who can ‘diagnose’ them as such.

Have you read the traits of a narcissist? I challenge anyone to read them and tell me that some if not all of those things apply to them too. Hell, most of them apply to me! Are people saying I’m a narcissist because I write a blog? Because I take selfies? I was taking selfies way back before they were even a hashtag! Does that mean I’ve always been a narcissist?

Oh wait, if I think I’m a narcissist, then it means I’m not one. Phew.

All this label does is create victims. The person who is with a ‘toxic narccissist’ is the victim, and they have the right to name, blame and shame the ‘nasty narcissist’. All that does is give away their power to the person they are blaming. Instead, why not see that the ‘Narcissist’ may have some inner work to do, and until they’ve done that, being in a relationship might not work? No blaming, no labelling, no shaming, just recognising that it is simply not the right time for you to be in the same space as each other.

Do you know what I see when I see a so-called narcissist? I see someone who doesn’t know what it feels like to be loved unconditionally. I see someone who does not love themselves. I have known and been in relationships with people who fit the ‘profile’ and do you know what? What they were missing was love. Pure, unconditional love. Don’t forget also, that your relationships with others are simply mirrors of what is going on inside you. So where are you not loving yourself?

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Brené Brown talks about the ‘epidemic’ in her book – Daring Greatly, and she says in there that there isn’t a rise of narcissists, but there is a rise in shaming and blaming certain behaviours.

What I find sad is that in a pre-emptive way, people are beginning to label themselves as narcissists, every time they take a selfie, as if just that simple act is enough to be labelled with something potentially damaging.

What if they’re taking a selfie because they feel good about themselves on that day, an there’s no one else there to take the photo?

On one hand, we’re telling people they’re beautiful, they’re amazing, they need to have more self-esteem and they should believe in themselves, and yet on the other we telling people that they’re narcissistic and think too highly of themselves and need to stop taking those damn selfies, because really, they’re not all that.

How does this make any sense?

So I propose we end this narcissistic epidemic, and instead begin a revolution of unconditional love.

First step? Let’s drop the negative labels, and see each other as the human beings that we all are. We are all spiritual souls in human bodies, doing the best we can do with all that we are, let’s begin by honouring that.

Rant over, I love you guys, even those of you who take selfies 😉


 

Michelle is the author and publisher of 10 Visionary Fiction novels, all available on Amazon in paperback and on Kindle. She spends her days helping Indie Authors to publish their books, taking photographs of mushrooms and making gluten-free cakes.

If you need any help with your publishing journey, please do get in touch with her by emailing theamethystangel@hotmail.co.uk. You can book a Skype session or a phone call with her, or ask questions via email. Please do follow her publishing blog to receive more posts on Indie Publishing.


Be Your Own Valentine

It’s that time of year again where everything is covered in hearts, there’s overpriced boxes of chocolates crammed in the aisles and bright red and pink cards that announce our love for our significant other.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Valentine’s Day, it’s good to have an excuse to buy flowers and silly gifts for a partner and to eat too much chocolate. But on this particular Valentine’s Day, whether you have a partner or not, I encourage you to become your own Valentine.

You don’t have to spend a fortune, buying yourself lavish gifts, (though you can if you want to!) but I would like to encourage you to really take some time to love and appreciate yourself. Tell your body how much you love it, and how thankful you are for it. Write a list of all the amazing qualities you have. Write down everything you do that makes you beautiful or unique. Promise yourself that you will not speak badly of yourself in any way, to anyone – not even to yourself.

Twin Flame Reality Quote

Write down your wildest dreams, and give yourself permission to begin pursuing them. That project that’s been at the bottom of your to-do list? Put it at the top and go for it!

If you have a partner, then encourage them to do these things too. Perhaps you could even do it together, and help to point out each other’s best parts!

When we truly love and honour ourselves, when we speak kind and loving words to and about ourselves, that is when we are really able to deeply love and cherish others. And that is also when others are able to really love and cherish us. If we are always putting ourselves down in order to solicit compliments from others, then we are missing out on the much greater joy of loving ourselves so much that we don’t need others to confirm it, though if they want to of their own accord, we will happily accept their words!

We are constantly fed the message through the media that we are not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, rich enough etc., and it’s time that we strengthened our belief in ourselves and our love for ourselves and stood proudly and declared:

I am beautiful. I am intelligent. I am abundant. I am awesome. 

And I love myself. 

You are all those things and so much more. And I am sending you an abundance of love and virtual chocolates!

Happy Valentine’s Day, Gorgeous!

 

Dear Twin Flames,

I am writing this letter to you. You know who you are. You are the beautiful soul who is in pain right now. You are the wonderful being who is on this planet to make a difference. But in this moment, everything is clouded with the overwhelming and devastating feeling of loss.

Because you have found the one. The one who loves you unconditionally. The one who makes you feel alive. The one who fits perfectly. The one who makes you feel as though you have finally come home.

The one who has left you.

I know you are searching for answers. On the internet, in books, in movies. I know that you are looking for the secret, for the magic spell that will make it all right again. That will bring your Flame back to you, where they belong. And I know you have yet to find it. And that is because there is no secret. There is no magic spell. There is only the truth.

If you wish for a future with your Flame, you must let them go. You must cut the cords. You must say good-bye. And you must move on.

Focus all of your energy on yourself. On your mission, on your health, on your well-being. Focus on joy and laughter, and friendship and the beauty that surrounds you. It is only then, that you might find yourselves back on a path toward each other.

I am guessing that at this moment in time, you are shaking your head and thinking – “This woman has no clue! How could I possibly do any of that, when I feel like this? When I am in this pit of despair? She has obviously never been where I am.”

But I have, dear Flames. I have been there not just once, but several times. And the first time, well, I didn’t think I would survive it. It was so very dark in that pit, no light found its way to me. None at all. And I wished that someone could have told me what I am telling you now.

You will get through it. I know you will. You are much, much stronger than you realise. And though being with your Flame in this lifetime is indeed part of your journey, it is not the entire journey. There are many other reasons why you are here right now. And those reasons are very much worth living for. If you find that you move on, and you do not reunite with your Flame, do not fall into fear or despair, instead, remember what Dr Seuss said – “Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”  Last year, I bought a little sign that bore that quote. The reason I loved it, and it made me more joyful, is because I realised, finally, that even though I was not with my Flame at that time, I had been with him. I had experienced his love, I had felt the depth of our connection, I had been completely at home in his arms, and even if I never experienced those things again, I knew I was lucky. Because there are so many souls who have never and might never experience that. I was so grateful to have had those moments with my Flame, and though the darkness without him was overwhelming, I wouldn’t have traded in my moments with him for a lifetime without having ever met him.

And I know you wouldn’t either.

I hope this letter shines a little light in your direction, and that it begins the healing of your heart. It will be whole again one day, I promise. I am sending you so much love and the brightest light to you, my dear Flames, and I am asking the Angels to envelop you in their wings while you heal and nurture yourself. Please, if you are in need of a friend, reach out, send me a message. I do not think I have all the answers, but I can provide an ear and a shoulder.

Love and blessings to you all,

Michelle

xx

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Twin Flame Relationships

In my Earth Angel books, I talk about the reunion of the Twin Flames. When I first came across the idea of Twin Flames, it resonated deeply within me. The idea that despite there being several possible soulmates for us, there is one person, one soul, who is our perfect match, they are ‘the one’.

In my books I say that the Flames are usually only reunited at the end of an age on Earth, and in Doreen Virtue‘s Angel Therapy cards, it is said that the Flames only come together during their last lifetimes together, when their reincarnation cycle is complete. In my mind, these two things go hand in hand, though some may disagree.

Here is the beautiful card from Doreen’s deck –

Twin Flames

I have witnessed the reunion of Flames, heard stories, and even experienced being with my own Flame, but there seems to be a recurring problem with these reunions. I couldn’t consciously figure it out, until I was sent this video on youtube, which describes the seven stages of a Twin Flame relationship. Please hit play below and watch it:

http://youtu.be/3aIV5okbDZQ

So it seems that although the Flames are finding one another, they are getting to the fourth stage  and then things fall apart. I have known of a few Twin Flame relationships that have not reached the last three stages, because of the ego. Because of fear, conditioning and holding onto the past. How can we help the Flames who are stuck to release these things and move forwards? Because for the Twin who has Awakened, who knows clearly that they should be together, it is very difficult to be apart from their Flame, because they know how it feels to be in their arms, to be with the one they love truly and unconditionally.

Why are souls so afraid to let down their walls, embrace their Twin fully and experience the bliss that is available to them?

I wish I had an answer, but I feel that by being aware of this and by understanding that it is a common occurrence between Flames, helps me to believe that there is an answer, a solution, to this. And that not only will Flames continue to reunite, but those who have met and parted from their Flames will get the second chance that they are wishing for.