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Then be sure to have plenty of aloe vera for when you get burned.

A Twin Flame relationship is like no other union on earth. When in the presence of your Flame you are your true self, you are complete and whole and most of all you are home. Many Earth Angels have a strong longing for their home, whether it’s the Angelic Realm or another planet, but when they are with their Twin Flame, that feeling of not belonging on earth, of being different, or alien on this planet, disappears. And they have found where they belong.

But as harmonious and beautiful and breathtaking as a Twin Flame union is, within the beauty and joy is a darkness. As with everything, there is a duality. It is not all fireworks and fun, and often, when you hold onto your Flame too tightly, like a firework held tightly in your fist, you will get burned. Flames must be free to dance and move around, free to be their own unique selves, while coming together at times too.

Why am I saying this? Mainly it’s because of a song lyric in a popular song that I really like at the moment – Bonfire Heart by James Blunt. The lyric in particular is the following:

Everybody wants a flame, but they don’t want to get burnt.

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But unfortunately, in my experience, that’s just not possible. Because though Twin Flames love each other unconditionally, we are humans, in physical bodies, on a physical plane, and it is not always possible to live purely in the metaphysical realm of pure, unconditional love. We have emotions, we have baggage from past relationships, maybe even from past lives when we were together and then lost each other. We have beliefs and ideas we have been brought up with. We are human now, even if we weren’t previously. And we are here to experience everything. The good, the bad, the painful and the joyful.

The difference between the bad times in a Twin Flame relationship and the bad times in any other relationship, is that no matter what, Flames loves each other and want the best for each other, and would never intentionally harm one another. Disagreements and arguments are more likely to be about human baggage, and if both Flames are aware enough, can be discussed and resolved without needing to resort to separation.

I was asked today how it is possible to be with your Flame, and know it for certain, but have your Flame be completely oblivious to the fact. I personally think it comes down to fear. There is an amazing description in a book called ‘Only Love is Real’ by Brian Weiss. The book is about soulmates, Flames, who find each other through different lifetimes. Weiss is a very well-known hypnotist and has written several books on past lives. The first couple of pages of the book was the most poignant to me, and you can read it on the look inside feature on Amazon. I would recommend buying the book and reading the whole thing though, as it demonstrates just how incredible it is that we are able to find our Flames in this age.

As much as the burns can be painful, please do not let the fear of the stinging pain put you off of finding your Flame, or from being reunited, if you already know them. Burns do heal, and the faint scars left behind are just reminders that you were brave enough to allow yourself to be vulnerable, and to love wholly and absolutely. I know that no matter how many scars I may have, I will always be thankful for every moment spent in the arms of my Flame.

There has been a lot of interest on my blog lately about Twin Flames. It is a subject very close to my own heart, and it is a theme that runs through my Earth Angel book series. Last year, I wrote a post about Twin Flames, and included a video about the stages of such relationships. The video was in fact sent to me by my own Flame, during a period of separation, after we had got to the fourth stage and gone our separate ways. While watching the video, he had seen the parallels with our relationship, and though he said he sent it to me merely because I write about Flames, I know that the video brought about an awareness within him. It was that awareness that caused us to meet up, just 4 days after I posted the video. Within a week of meeting up we were back together, and less than two weeks later, I had moved in with him. (I wrote a little more about it here)

Things have shifted and changed so much in the last seven months, and through it all, we have become stronger and even more deeply connected. The first thing we did was to be completely and utterly honest with each other. About everything. It was painful at times. There were fears that had been hidden for years, and bringing them into the light was not a joyful experience. But having that level of truth and honesty between us, has meant that we are now so in tune with each other, that we can tell immediately when there is something wrong. I can’t even explain how, but as soon as his energy shifts, and becomes a little negative or dark, I can tell. Now, nothing is kept hidden, or a secret, which means that emotions and fears are not trapped in our bodies and energy, which could cause problems later on.

I had a question from a lady about her Twin Flame, about whether they were indeed Flames and whether they would be together. She wanted to ask Amethyst or Velvet, so I did the reading for her, you can see it below:

In my experience, being with a Twin Flame is intense. But it’s also calming and comforting. To be in the arms of your Flame is to feel completely at home. There is nowhere else you would rather be than in his/her embrace, because that is exactly where you belong. There may be a fair amount of history between you that needs to be worked on and released, after all, you may have had several lifetimes together over the ages. But the effort is worth it, because you know that when you are with them – anything is possible. Just the fact that you have met your Twin Flame is a miracle in itself.

I would love to hear your experiences and views on Twin Flames, have you met yours?